What I’ve Learned: Reflections back on 2015

Ed Loh is an explorer of life’s greater questions. Of almost everyone he meets, Ed asks “What have you learned?” – So Ed, here’s what I’ve learned: We live in a universe of constant change. People come and go. So do jobs, finances, and all material goods. What matters most is not what we have, or even what we do with it – it’s how we are; our state of being. Are we happy? Are we uplifted? Do we uplift others by simply being ourselves? We’ve seen good friends pass in 2015. Locations change and careers transition. Amid life’s challenges, have been many moments of glory. I’ve met wonderful people, made new friends and reconnected with old. I’ve let go of much of what I owned and embarked on the essentialist’s path to “simplify my life” – which, as you know, is actually quite complicated. And in January 2016, I finally touched down and spent time with old friends as I returned home… to the sea the surf.

Donald P. Codulo reminds us that “The most important thing is to keep the most important thing, the most important thing.” – So what is that thing? I’ve learned that it’s not a “thing” at all. It’s this:  Joyous experiences & the people with whom we share them. Everything, EVERYTHING else comes and goes. But each experience creates a ripple expanding outward, affecting all people, in all places for all time. If you think that your actions and experiences and way of being has no effect on the world, I urge you to think again. Our way of being colors and therefor changes everything. Gandhi so famously said “be the change you want to see.”

So, be joyous, be uplifting, be loving. Be love. Let the past be past. Start now in the present. Never hesitate. Never wait for the “right moment” (create each moment). If you’re doing something that isn’t working for you, do something different. Find the happiness that exists within you. What will ignite it? Follow that bliss!

Damn, I’m sorry this is going the direction of cliches but there’s a reason it is – they’re all freakin right! Welp – not turning back now. So I might as well cap this one with my favorite cliche quote of all:

“Drink wine. This is life eternal. This is all that youth will give you. It is the season for wine, roses and drunken friends. Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life.”
Omar Khayyám,


  1. Riz says:

    All I have to say is, “AAHHH YEAAH!”

    1. Ben says:

      Ah yeah!!! – is probably the best way to put it…

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